If you do not know the place you’re going…

Once I was youthful, I used to be very a lot a ‘flow’ particular person. I knew I wished to do sure issues like: Study Spanish, dwell abroad, or be a author. Nevertheless I by no means thought an excessive amount of about why I wished to them, or what my finish objective was.

‘Life is concerning the journey, not the vacation spot’, was the fixed thought behind my thoughts.

Whereas that also stands true, being older and wiser has made me notice that the vacation spot is as vital because the journey.

As I grow old I notice extra what I need to ‘be’ relatively than what I need to ‘do’. And that if you wish to ‘be’ one thing, you’ve acquired to obviously outline it after which work in the direction of it.

Within the means of figuring out what I need to ‘be’, I usually go spherical in circles. I’ve been working with a coach for the final yr or so and he or she has helped me tremendously in defining tangible objectives for myself that may assist me attain my vacation spot.

My long run why is to have time freedom and monetary independence in order that I will be the grasp of my time and design my life on my phrases.

Every time I felt prefer it was an excessive amount of work, I reminded myself of my ‘why’ and it acquired me on monitor once more.

  • Accountability is vital: I hit a lot of my milestones final yr not solely as a result of I set deadlines, however as a result of I invested in somebody to carry me accountable. Figuring out that I needed to replace somebody on my progress gave me that additional push to simply get it performed, particularly when it felt exhausting or when time was quick.

    • I launched my e-newsletter.

    • I wrote a put up each week for 70 weeks!

    • I wrote, designed and launched free assets.

    • I constructed a group of 300+ superb working mums, seeking to higher their careers and be higher mums.

    • I launched an e-mail course.

    • I launched the primary cohort of a web-based course.

All whereas having a full time job and small children.

  • Have a transparent roadmap: Should you don’t have a path in the direction of your objectives, together with clear checkpoints to cease, consider, and recalibrate, you’re unlikely to maneuver ahead. And, what I’m realizing now could be that it’s important to be ruthless about transferring ahead in your path. We’re time poor and exhausted, you really want to have laser focus to maneuver the needle.

  • Saying no is a ability to study: Saying no to one thing, is saying sure to one thing else. Saying no to dinner with a buddy, is saying sure to a rejuvenating yoga class or writing my e-newsletter. Each determination is a sacrifice and studying to say no is a ability.

  • Regardless of all of your efforts, all issues received’t go to plan: Though I hit many milestones, I didn’t hit all of them. And that’s simply the unpredictable nature of attempting to construct one thing. There isn’t any one system for fulfillment, and everybody’s journey is completely different.

  • It’s okay to grieve about what you haven’t achieved: I’ve felt fairly disheartened over not hitting all my milestones. It’s okay to wallow in that for some time earlier than you get again on monitor.

  • The one actual studying comes from doing: I have to’ve performed no less than 10 programs within the final yr, learn 1000’s of articles, and joined too many studying communities. Fact is, you study nothing by studying or attending programs in the event you don’t put what you study into motion.

    For instance, you’ll be able to learn methods to begin a e-newsletter and watch a module on methods to do it, nevertheless except you really do it your self, you actually don’t notice all of the work that goes into getting it off the bottom.

  • Your well-being is as vital as your objectives: If you’re not feeling nice, how are you going to create something nice? Time to rejuvenate is as vital as reaching your objectives. In reality they’re mutually dependent.

  • Your vacation spot can change! That is crucial factor I’ve realized. It’s possible you’ll outline one thing for your self, after which realise on the way in which that it’s not for you, or it’s not the proper time. Nothing is ready in stone, and you may all the time change course. However you continue to have to have a course that takes you someplace you need to go!

As we come in the direction of the tip of one other yr, I’m reflecting on all the above and dealing on defining my roadmap for 2023. I normally have an aversion to ‘objective setting’ actions or workouts. They’re exhausting to do, require lots of self-discipline and usually are not enjoyable. However, I do know no different method to progress. So right here I’m speaking about objective setting instruments.

Listed below are some instruments I’m taking a look at to assist me plan my 2023:

The YearCompass: YearCompass is a free booklet that helps you mirror on the yr and plan the subsequent one. With a set of fastidiously chosen questions and workouts, YearCompass helps you uncover your individual patterns and design the perfect yr for your self. Study out of your errors, rejoice your victories, and set out a path you need to stroll on. All you want is a quiet few hours and this booklet. You possibly can test it out right here. (Sure, this textual content is copied from their web site)

A information to planning forward in occasions of uncertainty: My coach has a terrific template that may information your pondering to plan your yr by serving to you nail three pillars:

Readability about what you need

Self perception that it’s doable

A concrete plan that you simply flip to motion

You don’t need to need to be an entrepreneur to do that. You possibly can test it out right here.

In case you need her to information you thru it, my coach is having a Imaginative and prescient & Planning session on January 9, 2023 which you can learn extra about and join right here. I will probably be doing this session together with her subsequent week, in case any of you need suggestions on it, let me know and we will discuss it!

That’s all for at present. Wishing you all an exquisite week.



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